I would like to extend a very warm welcome to Hutch, the awesome blogger behind Be Awesome Instead. It’s hard not to love this girl and I think this post solidifies my bloggy crush on her (also, I have my own puma tendencies). Read and enjoy. And Hutch: thanks for sharing!
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In my early stages of dating, aka young adulthood, older men were it for me. Most of the guys in Santa Barbara were 3-5 years older. At 19 I dated a 26 year old, who just happened to be a minor leaguer (I also had a thing for athletes, that has most definitely not changed). At Syracuse, the ages started to even out, with SU D (I dated 3 D’s, of the same name, they’re forever specified by location) only a year older. Then grad school came along and I got my first taste of the younger man. At 24, a 2 1/2 year age difference with UMass D seemed like quite the gap! Turned out it was, and I went back to the more mature (ha!) guys my own age or older.
Almost two years ago, I realized most of the older guys are single for a reason…baggage! The baggage that ends in heartbreak. After recovering for about a year, I’ve come to understand the benefits of dating, or even just hooking up with, a younger guy. Focusing on the 24 to 27ish range, here’s what I’ve found to be the Top 5 Reasons Younger Guys are Awesome:
1. They’re young so they can keep up
2. They tend to be more fun, active and still take care of themselves
3. Experienced enough so you don’t have to teach them, but not set in their ways either
4. Far less pressure on the commitment front
5. Waaaay less pressure to be popping out babies
At this point in my life, according to societal standards, I should be looking to settle down. Yeah, no. Sure if I meet Mr. Right and the timing is there, I’ll go for it. Until then, I’m just fine with Mr. Right Now. In my first official week as a Puma, I even landed a Cub. For the night and it’s purposes he was a great make-out buddy. Go back a couple years and I would have either been thinking about the future with this guy, or how to avoid ever seeing him again. Instead, all I have to think about is who’s next. The life of a Puma is great!
Now if I can just figure out how to move past the need to be in a committed relationship to get laid thing…
Yay! I have been waiting for this post from Hutch. I had Puma tendencies back in high school. I dated a younger guy (and lost my virginity to him too. shhh!) I know, bad, but we are still friends to this day so it is cool. I also dated 3 D’s (Daves). I married one of them too!
I love living through my two favorite single ladies!
Thanks so much for having me, linking up now!
Jayme, mine were all Dave’s too. Also, the same name as my father so I was almost setting myself up for disappointment. Freud would have loved me! 🙂
I dated ONE younger guy in grad school and I was like, UH NO, never again. He was awful. We went out on one date, then he asked me to “be his girlfriend” and I’m all, UH, whatever, sure (red flag 1). He lived at a fraternity house and didn’t have a phone (red flag two) and was drunk all the time (red flag three) and so on and so forth (red flags four through one million). Then HE broke up with ME. I mean honestly. I wasn’t even sad, I was just like, WTF? Very confused.
Hey, my husband is younger! WOOHOO. I did something right? lol
I pretty much always dated people that are within a year of my own age. One time I kissed this dude who was two years younger than me (when I was younger, so he seemed younger even) and I was like OMG you are so young. I could be your mom. I might have been going overboard a bit.
lol that’s why i love you, hutch 🙂
Also, just saw the tag “a woman’s got needs” and I LOVE IT! 🙂
haha, thank you, thank you 🙂 I always have a good time with my tags!
My husband is younger than me.
Trying to think of something positive to say about that. 🙁
My husband asks me every damn day if I’m pregnant. Sure, I’d like another baby but….can we say pressure? I’d like to be a puma for a day too and have a man who’s a little more…relaxed.
puma’s I’d like to think I might become one… oneday. Think I have a few years yet. I have mostly dated younger guys. I try to date guys in my age bracket but it is never seems to go over well but the young ones(and the old ones) love me.
Ha! I love how you ended it Hutch!
Glad you are loving your puma life!
Enjoy Mr Right Now!
All good points. Since I’m bossy as hell, younger guys always worked well.
Ahhh I love this! Young guys are the best! haha!! I had a stretch of 6 years where no one I dated was older than me…that all ended when I married one of them 😉
Hell yeah, cubs are GRRRREAT!!! I’m in cub heaven!! Those are the BEST 5 reasons EVER!!!
I’ve always had bad luck with younger guys. I’ve found they get clingy and lovey-dovey WAY too quick. Major turn-off.
Which bar did you meet your “prey” at, Ms. Puma? 🙂
I always dated older guys…. I think the biggest age different was when I was 19 and dated a 27 year old. I figured they’d be more mature and over the whole getting wasted every night thing.
And then I managed to marry a guy that is only 3 months older than me. Go figure.
I am happy to hear you are enjoying yourself. Live. it. up.
You are spot on about younger guys! I really enjoyed this post!
Amen on the getting past needing to be in a committed relationship to get laid. Sigh. I’d like to think I could….wish I could….but just haven’t been able to.
Ha! Love it. Just get laid once outside of a committed relationship, after alcohol and you’ll see the greatness of it. Dang, now I sound like a slut.