I promised a follow-up post and I totally dropped the ball in getting this to you sooner. Sorry about that. This is traditionally the time of year when I go into hibernation, but I have had something going on every night for the past week and it’s been a little exhausting. But I did try to use whatever down time I had to sort through the muck in my mind. It’s ridiculous what swirls around up there sometimes.
So last we spoke (or last I wrote), I was getting ready for date #2 with the blues musician who lives in town. He called me Sunday afternoon to see if I wanted to grab a bite to eat for dinner so we arranged to meet up at a Middle Eastern restaurant. I was looking forward to it, not only because conversation was effortless with him, but I really did enjoy our first date together. And maybe I wanted a repeat of the steamy evening we had Friday night.
Our second date was just as good as the first. After dinner, I asked if he wanted to come back to my apartment (you know, for tea and crumpets). He obliged; clothes came off. But something just didn’t feel right. I may have been hung up on the fact that he told me his ex wife and kids live around the corner from me or maybe some of the initial physical attraction wore off or maybe I’m a serial dater and will have a hard time settling down… Whatever the reason, it just wasn’t there for me the second time around.
And I kind of hated myself for it. But I also wanted to be as honest with him as possible, especially after what I had been through in my previous relationship. If the situation were reversed, I would prefer a clean break early on. He told me he’d never had anyone break it off on a second date, and especially not while lying naked in bed together. He ran his fingers through my hair, pulled me in close, and told me he didn’t really understand but that he was happy to have met me. It was lovely while it lasted (all of two dates. That might be a new record!) and I sincerely hope to have gained a new friend to go see local live music with.
I am very excited about a date I have tomorrow night with another Match.com guy. I really have a good feeling about this one which means it’s very likely the date will be a total dud and I’ll want to give up on online dating forever. Or until the next phishhead winks at me. Wish me luck!
Beautifully handled, my dear. Luck!
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you dont need baggage, ie ex wife, children, horses, horse penii, etc… good clean cut!.. that-a-girl š
i usually have something funny or stupid to say but this time i feel bad cause it seemed like i thought u liked this one š
You should give yourself a big pat on the back for being honest with him. I know for me sometimes the anticipation of a things is better than actual event. It could have just been something in the air. Good luck with the new date. I am so happy you are getting out there. I should follow your lead and get out there myself…
I hear you on the hibernation, though. I have been feeling lousy and sick and it is like trying to climb out of a well. However, life goes on and I want to be part of so I much. Peace and love, keishua
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At least you were honest with yourself!
(I’m crossing my fingers for the phishhead, hehe)
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Well here is to hoping the next one is better and I have to say I admire your honesty. I don’t know many woman who have that in them for fear of being alone. Besides I don’t think I could deal with a baby momma, no strike that I KNOW I couldn’t! š
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Hey, when you know, you know! You and my bff have a lot in common – she is going through the same thing. I keep telling her that there is no point in seeing someone if you don’t feel that “spark”. If it’s not there you can’t force it! Can’t wait to hear about date #2!!
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Oh bummer. I liked him š
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I have no idea what to say with this one except “Good Luck” with this new date at least ;p
Good luck lady!!
Trusting your instincts is a huge thing and usually stears you in the right direction. I know my life has been going a lot better lately since I’ve been paying attention to my instincts. I hope this next date goes well for you since you’re so excited for it! Can’t wait to see what happens š
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At least you knew early. You weren’t wasting anyone’s time and you enjoyed yourself overall! Here’s hoping date #1 with Match #2 works out!
Better to realize it on date 2, right? Keep the positivity you never know what could happen!
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I am all caught up on your adventures, Bunny! Keep me posted! We have to swap Internet disaster stories. š
Wow, what a break up. And in bed naked, no less. I gotta give it you for knowing what you want.
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WHAT?!?!? This is NOT how I expected Date #2 to go!
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good for you, being honest even though that’s not always easy. it’s definitely the right way to go. plus, dating in adulthood is a much safer place for honesty. other adults appreciate you being up front because they’re done with playing games.
i hope the other date went well! can’t wait to hear about it.
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At least it was fun for two dates š Good luck with the next one!
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Aww….sorry it didnt work out….there is someone for everyone…keep on truckin’…:)
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I admire your honesty and that you weren’t afraid to tell him in person naked in bed. I’d have emailed him and then turned off my phone that’s how brave I am š
I would say text only I never text š
You know what I say? NEXT. lol Hey, no sense in wasting both of your time if it’s not there.
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You know what, if it doesn’t feel right then there is no reason to force it. At least he was cool about it.
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