“You just have to trust in science.”
A friend said that to me once, effectively pinpointing exactly what it was that I struggled with the most on the journey to become a mother—trust.
Just a few months ago, I was up at the crack of dawn each morning to give blood and find out how far along I was in my cycle. I left many of my visits thinking this was nothing more than overpriced mumbo jumbo; that I was one unlucky sucker in a sea of infertile women and that collectively we fell for the oldest trick in the book.
In many ways, it is an industry that thrives on fear. Once we reach that dreaded Advanced Maternal Age (shudder), we line up in droves to hear about our options, and we cough up money insurance won’t pay for a glimmer of hope.
I read yesterday about two separate clinics on opposite ends of the country. Fertility centers in both Cleveland and San Francisco experienced equipment failures that may have damaged hundreds of frozen eggs and embryos. Hundreds!
My heart sank for all of the couples who put their faith in science and trusted that these storage lockers were foolproof. Do you know the cost of retrieval is upwards of $12,000 (not including medication, which is another $3,000 to $5,000) and that storage for one year is approximately $800? I won’t even get into the hefty price tag for IVF and the other upsells doctors convince you are necessary for a healthy baby. For a couple trying to conceive, those costs add up very quickly, and aren’t always covered by insurance.
I haven’t yet advanced to the egg retrieval phase, because truthfully, I’m terrified (I also simply don’t have tens of thousands of dollars squirreled away). Once those eggs leave my body, they are gone forever, stored in a lab and sealed away with trust. In a science I’m not sure I always believe, and in a lab that could easily betray my confidence.
I woke up to the devastating news this morning that visionary Stephen Hawking passed away. It seems fitting that today is National Pi Day, and in honor of his memory (and the holiday itself) I say we all treat ourselves to one of life’s little pleasures, yes?
In other news, I’m excited to partner together with seven other bloggers tomorrow for a Pot O’ Gold giveaway valued at $100. I hope you’ll stop by!
What’s on your mind? Let me know in the comments!