If you’ve been blogging for a while, chances are you’ll fall into a rut eventually. It happens to the best of us and it isn’t a reflection on anything aside from the fact that you are now a seasoned blogger (congratulations!) who has simply run out of steam. There have been many times over the course of my tenure as a blogger where I have questioned whether or not I should continue and if it’s something worth pursuing. Here are just a few of the times when I thought about abandoning my online home.
The first time I received a comment from a troll. I’ll be honest—I wasn’t prepared. I had that sucker saved in my WordPress “pending” folder for so long until I couldn’t take it anymore. This comment was mean and though I’ll likely never know its source, it rattled me because it spoke about a deeply personal breakup and a very painful time in my life. Those words were bullets in my heart and it took me a long time to hit the “delete” button.
When I started dating again. Since this blog got its start after the aforementioned breakup, I had a very hard time putting myself out there and documenting it in blog form. Sure, some sexy trysts were fun to write about, but when a relationship became serious, I found myself struggling with whether or not to share my online diary with this new set of eyeballs. It’s all fun and games until you imagine your new boyfriend reading all of your personal thoughts from the past!
That time I revealed too much and upset a friend. I’m ashamed to admit this has happened. As much as I try to respect boundaries and anonymity, there have been times when a personal situation has trickled into my blog. My intent has never been to hurt anyone’s feelings, and I have certainly become much more mindful of this over the years.
All the times I compared myself to my peers. It’s really hard not to pay attention to the numbers game, and when you’re in a field that is very focused on statistics, it can make you question why you are blogging in the first place. This past week I was rejected from an influencer network… for the second time! It sucks because I know so many bloggers who blog in that network (AND HELLO! I work for an influencer network!), but I’ve learned never to take these things personally. They’re just not ready for this jelly.
The first time I experienced writer’s block. This is a common affliction for any blogger who has been doing it for a while. Thank god for prompts and an endless sea of fillers on days when you feel completely stuck.
When life just got in the way. This one takes the cake and trumps all of the above. There will always be obligations that get in the way of writing and scheduling posts, engaging with other bloggers, and being active on social media. But just like anything else in life, if you really want to be successful at blogging, you have to work at it… all the time.
Have you ever thought about quitting? What made you change your mind?